Not Telling Your Life Story- What is Lost?

We've discussed how important telling your life story is, and three things that are gained when you enjoy them with your family. But what is lost when you don't share them? What happens if your stories sit bottled up inside of you, never allowed to be shared?

Here are three important things that evaporate when family stories are not shared.

1. Relationships
Do you really know your parents and grandparents? A woman I know named Donna didn't even know her mother's first name until she interviewed her. She also felt a new  connection to her grandfather-someone she had never known- as her mother recounted stories of him.

In this technological age that we live in, genuine family communication is hard to come by. Movies, TV, cellphones, and radio have made family time hard to come by. I know several parents who hardly see their teenagers, let alone have serious discussions with them. It seems that the younger generation is more likely to want to be on their phones, texting people they see every day, rather than talking to the older generations.

We have to be intentional in setting aside time to talk with other family members, via phone or in person, to make sure these relationships aren't lost. Whether you're a parent or grandparent, uncle or aunt, take the time to tell other family members, particularly the younger generation, who you are, what your family stands for, and how much you care about them.

2. Storytelling Opportunities
When your stories aren't shared, that material is lost forever. It's great to read your kids bedtime stories, but think about closing the Dr. Seuss book and telling one of your own! YOU have an amazing life story to tell. Only YOU can share that unique experience. More often than not, your kids will enjoy your own stories more. It fascinates them that this was your own experience, and they'll feel even closer to you. Your own stories are great bedtime material. Reminisces are everything you need.

3. Values and Beliefs
Stories communicate life experiences and tell the next generation right from wrong. In a world that seems to have lost important morals, this is more important than ever. Kids need to learn from you; not the media. Family stories are a great way to accomplish this; without them, kids miss out on an important foundation.

As M. Scott Peck pointed out, "Life is difficult." Stories can convey the need for courage when trials and difficulties are encountered. Through stories of war, financial hardships, losses of one kind or another and the larger societal battles over civil and women's rights, our children can see that family members faced and overcame challenges—even death.

Real life stories, whether they are your own or your parents, can have a huge impact on children and grandchildren. Close the generational gap. It's time to start telling your life story.

Sign up today at www.lifebio.com and get started on writing your life story without delay. Write your own autobiography, or capture a parent's or grandparent's.

Comments